Showing posts with label gift. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gift. Show all posts

Saturday, February 16, 2013

100 Things I Love About Korea: #78 - Valentines Day (All for the Men)

Korea has scored major points in my book by focusing Valentines Day on men.  Every February 14, women are supposed to give gifts to the most important men in their lives.  Men are officially off the hook.
Don't worry women, your day is coming.  It's just delayed a month to White Day.  But breaking them up like this actually gives men a fighting chance to remember the holiday.
Also, the women go first, so they set the gift-giving standard.  That takes a lot of pressure of the guys.  You don't have to guess how big or how nice you should go.  Just match what you got.
So making romance easier on men ... yeah, we definitely need that.

Thursday, January 31, 2013

100 Things I Love About Korea # 48: House Warming Toilet Paper

House warming parties are a big tradition in Korea.  Any time someone moves to a new apartment, they are socially obligated to throw several parties (for the husband's coworker, for the wive's coworkers, for the family, for the friends, etc.). Traditional presents for these parties are household goods like cleaning supplies or, my personal favorite, toilet paper.  
We didn't have to buy toilet paper or laundry soap for more than a year.  That sure beats some random decorative item that most people never use.

Friday, August 31, 2012

Sabbath Series 1: Quantum Sabbath


Quantum physics is rocking the scientific world.  At first, people thought that quantum physics describes what happens on the subatomic level - how our world works in its teeny, tiniest parts.  The sheer exploration of electrons and protons was shocking enough, but in the past decade, physicists have been discovering “that quantum behavior persists on a macroscopic scale.”  
I don’t really understand most of what is going on in quantum physics, but there is one point that makes a lot of sense to me: entanglement.  This is when two or more objects are mysteriously tangled together.  According to our normal reasoning, they shouldn’t effect each other, but they do.  “Even when the entangled particles are far apart, they still behave as a single entity, leading to what Einstein famously called ‘spooky action at a distance.’”  Sometimes, things are connected even when it looks like they aren’t.  
This doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to us when we’re talking about the super-microscopic level of what happens inside atoms.  Most of us don’t understand and don’t care about that.  But what physicists are discovering is that quantum physics are everywhere in our world - working even with larger objects.  There is “spooky action” all over the place.  Things are connected even when it looks like they aren’t.
Quantum behavior is counter-intuitive.  It “eludes visualization [in graphs and charts] and common sense.  It forces us to rethink how we look at the universe and accept a new and unfamiliar picture of our world.” (Vlatko Vedral, “Living in a Quantum World,” Scientific American, June 2011)

Social scientists are beginning to apply this quantum entanglement theory to family systems, organizations, and cultures.  Psychologists are applying entanglement theory to the inner workings of our minds and hearts.  Astronomers are exploring the possibility of quantum relationships in the largest parts of our universe.  We are quantum people in a quantum world.  Things are connected even when it looks like they aren’t.  
This forces us to rethink how we look at our universe and to develop a new picture for how our lives work in the world.  Sometimes we call this quantum phenomena irony.  How many of you have heard your mom or aunt say to some single woman, “You’ll meet Mr. Right just about the time you stop looking for him”?  There is some kind of quantum connection there between finding and not looking.  
Today, we begin our series on the Sabbath, with the basic premise that there is a quantum connection between our practice of Sabbath and the rest of our week.  Even our calendars experience quantum entanglement.  Good Sabbath practice leads to good weeks and good years.  Bad Sabbath practice has a “spooky action from a distance” that drags down our moods, our health, our spirituality, and our performance in school and work.  Some things are connected even when it looks like they aren’t.  

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Retro Poem #6: The Letter Box


words are but words
and words with words
make no more than words
but words are what I have to give you
a word in itself 
is but a scratch on paper
or a breath in the air
the one who speaks the word
does give it some measure of weight
yet words and words are hollow
until words and deeds are one
yet with words I work my deeds
or some portion thereof
time excels all words
and time I plan to give
but time is not all mine
I must for others live
so when life pulls my time away
my words to you I’ll give
words are but words
when words alone
but these words I give
are not mere words
for in the giving
words and deeds are one
a gift I give to you today
not for the gift itself
but for what it will hold
it will hold my words
my words when we’re apart
my words when we’re together
as my pen flows in endless rhyme
my words will grow with time
and time will show
that time I’ll give
to accompany the words
which will build beneath this lid



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(I wrote this poem as part of a Christmas gift to Sarah before we got married.  The other half of the gift was a hand-painted box for her to store our letters in while we were apart.  During that Christmas vacation, we started a tradition of writing one letter to each other every day that we are apart.  We are still continuing this tradition 12 years later.  Oh, and, I wrote the entire poem on a long role of paper ribbon which I then used to wrap the box.)