1. God hates cancer.
Jesus taught us to pray, “May your will be done on earth as it is in heaven” (Matthew 6:10). Revelation tells us that in heaven, “He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain” (21:4). God is on our side in the fight against cancer, and one day, God will win.
2. God suffers with us. Isaiah 63:9, “In all their suffering he also suffered.” Like a parent hurting with a child, God is right there with us, crying right along with us.
3. God can use anything.
I’m not saying that God causes cancer, but God can definitely use anything - even hurtful things - for good. God can redeem pain for healing. Romans 8:28, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Sometimes the most important lessons are the most painful. Sometimes the most important life changes emerge from the pit of suffering. Even in the midst of great loss, we can always ask, “God, what do you want to teach me through this?”
4. God is not threatened by our pain, doubts, or anger.
As you grieve, read through the Psalms. Learn from the lament psalms. It’s OK to complain to God. It is good to shout at God if you feel like shouting. It is OK to question God’s goodness. God can handle it, and if you don’t express it, it will eat you up inside.
5. God is bigger than our pain.
When we lose a loved one, that pain can block out the sun. The pain of loss can be all consuming, a black hole sucking us down. It’s OK to feel the pain. It’s OK to feel like you can’t go on. But in the midst of the pain and the storm and the feelings of drowning in despair, hold on to God. God also lost a loved one - a son. Jesus died an extremely painful death at an early age, so God knows that pain. But God’s mighty power also raised Jesus from the dead and began the redemption of all suffering. I don’t know why evil and suffering are in the world, but I know that good wins. I know that God wins. No matter how bad the pain, remember that God’s good love is greater still.